How to Keep Going When Life is Getting You Down

How to Keep Going When Life is Getting You Down

         First thing I want to say that is you can still go another one mile when you can’t even stand erect! And I think you all observed it in flight and fight type situations…

Do you ever wonder? How do people carry on when everything seems to be going wrong?

Imagine that you feel your heart has been broken into two and the future seems so black…

It really does not matter how full of life and determined you may be, but if you’re anything like the rest of us than definitely there will be sometimes when you’ll find it hard to motivate yourself and push through the difficult battles.

When you see no hope for the future, and everything just looks like a deep dark hole, it is really hard to continue with life. But there is light at the end of every tunnel.

There may be some situations like, just as an example-

1.     You are kicked from a job where you were working from couple of year.

2.    If your marriage is not working.

3.    You are on a project for a long time and you are totally exhausted about when it will complete!

4.    You are failed in some thing; which you loved a lot.

5.    Situations when you are hard hit in head by you own life….

We all face these type of situations in our life at one time or another and nobody is going to tell you the right thing to do. But there is something that you definitely do not want to do.  That something is… nothing.

When it’s time to make a move and you stand there doing nothing, you pretty much gets run over. Instead of making things happen, doing nothing just lets them happen to you.  This sucks for so many reasons, but primarily because it is not living.

Reaching a crossroad in life is never comfortable, but it’s also not the end of the road. It’s a time of uncertainty and challenge, which forces us out to the very edge.  It is here that we show what we’re made of.  Are we all made up of sand...?

So stop fearing from water! Drive in the river of difficulties and pass it with the world’s strongest boat i.e. your inner self.

 No matter how many wounds you take to the heart, just keep persevering.

1.  Look at your wounds in a New Mindset

In reality, everything in life is neutral, it’s all about how we interpret things with our minds! So just sit on confortable position and look at you and reanalyze; don’t be panic about past hit but concentrate on the new beginning with the new ideas!

Look whenever you are failed, you know one another idea that will not work! So you are being better by doing and correcting mistakes! Remember No one is perfect even the great God!

But the key idea is not to repeat the same mistake thrice! Instead try a new one there are infinite to do…!

2. Prioritize your time and everything else!

Don’t waste your time crying over past because you can’t do a single thing to alter your past but you can always do something to change the future!

Ask yourself a small but efficient question, that’s- “What Now?”

And then do the things which are urgent to do then do the things which are important but not urgent… if you divide everything in these criteria and if you are continuous on this routine you will soon find that you are doing the impossible…!

3.Only control what you can control & Be flexible

Some things are there which we can’t control like if you have a plan to go to picnic on Sunday but there’s heavy raining… you will soon be disappointed and you will curse everything around you but just think- if your bad mood can stop the rain? Answer is no!

Likewise sometimes due to some situation s we can’t achieve what we wanted to but believe me there are still lots of opportunities and plan s are there to accomplish. So be flexible with a plan.

Remember the movie “the A-team” You must have 2 or 3 back up plans for whatever you decide!

4. Take breaks and reward yourself!

Don’t be a workaholic be a smart worker instead! Take breaks when you are exhausted and do something productive AND entertaining like talking to your family so that you have a balance in life + your battery will be fully charged!

Reward yourself whether it’s a small or big success; it will make your subconscious strong + it will give you some light when you are in dark!

5.Trackdown your self

Just imagine a company without feedback, customer support and reviewer panel!

I’ll bate you will not buy a single thing from that! So how can you imagine yourself without reviewing yourself?

So first I’ll subject please write a journal and track down your daily routine.

And review it in the weekends and think about the difficulties or failure and writ down the ways how you are going to overcome from them…

Write whenever you feel good about your work and whenever you succeed in something that will remind you about your true self and save you from bricking….

Finally, Life is a non-stop journey and each moment is the destination so immerse yourself in the present as often as possible.

An Innocent Beautiful Heart

A Valentine Story

John Blanchard stood up from the bench, straightened his Army uniform, and studied the crowd of people making their way through Grand Central Station. He looked for the girl whose heart he knew, but whose face he didn't, the

girl with the rose.

His interest in her had begun thirteen months before in a Florida library. Taking a book off the shelf he found himself intrigued, not withthe words of the book, butwith the notes penciled in the margin. The soft handwriting reflected a thoughtful soul and insightful mind. In the front of the book, he discovered the previous owner's name, Miss Hollis Maynell. With timeand effort he located her address. She lived in New York City. He wroteher a letter introducing himself and inviting her to correspond.

The next day he was shipped overseas for service in World War II. During the next year and one monththe two grew to know each other through the mail. Each letter was a seed falling on a fertile heart. A romance was budding. Blanchard requested a photograph, but she refused. She felt that if he really cared, it wouldn't matter what she looked like.

When the day finally came for him to return from Europe, they scheduled their first meeting - 7:00 PM at the Grand Central Station in New York. "You'll recognize me," she wrote, "by the red rose I'll be wearing on my lapel." So at 7:00 he was in the station looking for a girl whose heart he loved, but whose face he'd never seen.

I'll let Mr. Blanchard tell you what happened:

A young woman was coming toward me, her figure long and slim.Her blonde hair lay back in curls from her delicate ears; her eyes were blue as flowers. Her lips and chin had a gentle firmness, and in her pale green suit she was like springtime come alive. I started toward her, entirely forgetting to notice that she was not wearing a rose. As I moved, a small, provocative smile curved her lips.” Going my way, sailor?" she murmured. Almost uncontrollably I made one step closer to her, and then I saw Hollis Maynell. She was standing almost directly behind the girl. A woman well past 40, she had graying hair tucked under a worn hat. She was more than plump, her thick-ankled feet thrust into low-heeled shoes. The girl in the green suit was walking quickly away. I felt as though I was split in two, so keen was my desire to follow her, and yet so deep was my longing for the woman whose spirit had truly companioned me and upheld my own. And there she stood. Her pale, plump face was gentle and sensible; her gray eyes had a warm and kindly twinkle. I did not hesitate. My fingers gripped the small worn blue leather copy of the book that was to identify me to her. This would not be love, but it would be something precious, something perhaps even better than love, a friendship for which I had been and must ever be, grateful. I squared my shoulders and saluted and held out the book to the woman, even though while I spoke I felt choked by the bitterness of my disappointment.

"I'm Lieutenant John Blanchard, and you must be Miss Maynell. I am so glad you could meet me; may I take you to dinner?"

The woman's face broadened into a tolerant smile. "I don't know what this is about, son," she answered,” but the young lady in the green suit who just went by, she begged me to wear this rose on my coat. And she said if you were to ask me out to dinner, I should go and tell you that she is waiting for you in the big restaurant across the street. She said it was some kind of test!"

It's not difficult to understand and admire Miss Maynell's wisdom. The true nature of a heart is seen in its response to the unattractive. "Tell me whom you love," Houssaye wrote, "And I will tell you who you are." 

Steve Jobs: Man who made it 'I M POSSIBLE' from 'IMPOSSIBLE'

A tribute to...

Steve Jobs
(A Survivor's Story)

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma-which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

When Steve Jobs was born February 24, 1955, in San Francisco, California , his unwed mother decided to put him for adoption because she wanted a girl. So in the middle of the night, his mother called a lawyer named Paul Jobs and said, “We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?”

His mother felt very strongly that he should be adopted by college graduates and when she found out that both his future parents had never graduated from colleges, she refused to sign the adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when his future parents promised that they would send Jobs to college.

He went to college but decided to drop out because it was too expensive. Recalling his time there he said,

I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple.

Jobs and Apple

At 20, he and a friend (Steve Wozniak) started a company in a garage on April 1, 1976. Later that year, the duo debuted the Apple I at the Homebrew Computer Club in Palo Alto, California. A local store offered to buy 50 machines and to finance the production, the duo had to sell their most expensive possesions. Jobs sold his Volkswagen van while Wozniak sold his Hewlett-Packard scientific calculator.

Jobs named their company – Apple in memory of a happy summer he had spent as an orchard worker in Oregon.

By 1982 however, his company sales sagged in the face of competition from IBM’s new PC. Jobs and Wozniak unveiled their new creation, Lisa to increase the company’s bottom line, only to be another expensive failure.

Not wanting to dwell on these successive failures, they worked on a new machine called the Macintosh. Jobs was reported to commandeered the project, ruthlessly pushing its computer engineers and flying a pirate flag above the building where the team worked.

By 1986 the Mac, which Jobs promised to be ‘insanely great’ was a huge success. After 10 years, starting from 2 kids working in a garage, Apple computer had grown into a $2 billion dollar company with over 4000 employees.

At 30 Jobs, however, was fired from the company he co-founded with Steve Wozniak. He left the company after losing a bitter battle over control with Apple’s CEO John Sculley (whom Jobs had recruited from Pepsi Cola).

After Apple 

Apparently both have different views of how the company should be handled and in one meeting Sculley had told security analysts in a meeting that Jobs would have no role in the operations of the company “now or in the future.” When Jobs heard of the message he said, “You’ve probably had somebody punch you in the stomach and it knocks the wind out you and you cannot breathe. The harder you try to breathe, the more you cannot breathe. And you know that the only thing you can do is just relax so you can start breathing again.”

Jobs sold over $20 million of his Apple stock, spent days bicycling along the beach, feeling sad and lost, toured Paris, and journeyed on to Italy.

Recalling this publicly heartbreaking episode Jobs said,

‘I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.’

During the next five years he started two companies – NeXTStep and Pixar.

NeXTStep which produces NeXT, $9,995 cube-shaped workstation which aimed to create a workstation for research and higher, didn’t do as well as Jobs had dreamed for. It did poorly and Jobs pulled the plug in 1993.

Pixar, however was a success story. The company started the first computer-animated film, the Toy Story and when Pixar’s stock went public, Jobs became an instant billionaire.

Jobs, back with a vengence

Meanwhile, his old company, Apple was under immense pressure from rival Microsoft and in 1996 posted billions of dollars in losses.

In December 1996 Jobs convinced Apple to buy NeXT and make its software the foundation of the next-generation Mac OS. The technology he developed at NeXT became the catalyst of Apple’s comeback. Initially appointed as Apple’s adviser, Steve Jobs was named Apple’s interim CEO in 1997.

In 2004 he was diagnosed with cancer on his pancreas. Jobs was told that the cancer was incurable and he would only live for another three to six months. Later, a biopsy showed that he actually had a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. He had the surgery and survives.

Under his leadership, Apple returned to profitability and introduced innovations such as the iPod.

Steve Jobs advice-

Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work.

And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

“I'm sorry, it's true. Having children really changes your view on these things. We're born, we live for a brief instant, and we die. It's been happening for a long time.”

The Dark Knight

I was born as a knight
neither good nor bad…

Couple of years later
I chose to be good...

Days gone and I learned something...

I fought for the Gods way..

And the nights were going darker day by day...

Once again I have a way to choose...

And it’s the darkest night...

There’s a limit of every suffering...

And it’s my time to fly...

It’s my time to escape...

Let I break the laws...

When my soul be so dark...

Even the brightest light will not return...

I’ll shine black as of a black pearl because…

I’m not White Knight anymore...

I am the Dark Knight!

-Abhijeet Verma